Imagine this: You’ve been scrolling through Facebook, casually liking posts, when suddenly, you notice that person—your crush—has been popping up more often. What if I told you there’s a way to find out if they feel the same way… without the awkwardness of sliding into their DMs?
Enter Facebook Dating’s Secret Crush feature—a playful, low-pressure way to test the waters with up to nine people you’re interested in. The best part? They’ll only know if they add you to their Secret Crush list too.
In this guide, we’ll break down how to use Secret Crush, tips to maximize your chances, and what happens when there’s a match. Let’s turn those “what ifs” into “what’s next?”
What Is Facebook Dating’s Secret Crush Feature?
Facebook Dating isn’t just another swiping app—it’s designed to help you connect with people you already know (or almost know) in a more organic way. The Secret Crush feature takes this a step further by letting you discreetly signal interest in:
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Facebook friends
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Instagram followers
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Facebook Group or Event members
The catch? They won’t be notified unless they add you too. If they do—boom! It’s a match, and Facebook will notify both of you.
How to Set Up Secret Crush in 5 Simple Steps
Ready to take the leap? Here’s how to get started:
1. Access Facebook Dating
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Open the Facebook app (mobile only).
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Tap the menu (☰) and select Dating.
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If you don’t see it, update your app or check if it’s available in your region.
2. Navigate to Secret Crush
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Go to your Dating profile.
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Scroll to the Secret Crush section.
3. Add Your Crushes
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You can select up to 9 people.
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They must be on Facebook Dating (or opt-in if they’re on Instagram).
4. Wait (Patiently!)
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If they add you too, Facebook will notify you both.
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If not, your secret stays safe.
5. Make Your Move
Got a match? Send them a message and see where it goes!
Pro Tips to Increase Your Chances of a Match
Want to boost the odds? Try these strategies:
✅ Choose People Who Engage With You
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If they like your posts or react to your stories, they might be open to connecting.
✅ Keep It Balanced
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Don’t add all 9 crushes at once—spread them out to avoid looking spammy.
✅ Update Your Dating Profile
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A great bio and clear photos make you more appealing if they check your profile.
✅ Stay Active on Facebook Dating
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The more you interact, the higher your visibility.
❌ Don’t Overthink It
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If nothing happens, no one knows—so there’s zero embarrassment!
What Happens If You Match?
When two people add each other as Secret Crushes:
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Both get a notification (“You matched with [Name] on Secret Crush!”).
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You can start chatting right away in Facebook Dating.
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No pressure—if the vibe isn’t there, you can unmatch.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
1. Can Someone See If I Added Them as a Secret Crush?
Nope! Unless they add you too, they’ll never know.
2. What If My Crush Isn’t on Facebook Dating?
They won’t appear in your selection list unless they’ve joined.
3. Can I Remove Someone from My Secret Crush List?
Yes! Just go back and delete them—no harm done.
4. How Many Times Can I Change My Secret Crush List?
As often as you want—but you’re limited to 9 at a time.
5. Does Facebook Dating Notify Friends?
No, your Dating activity is kept separate from your main profile.
Final Thoughts
Love (or at least, a great conversation) could be just one Secret Crush away. The beauty of this feature? It removes the fear of rejection while opening the door to something exciting.
So why not give it a try? Add that person you’ve been thinking about—who knows, they might be waiting for your name to pop up too.
Now it’s your turn! Have you used Secret Crush before? Share your success stories (or funny fails) in the comments below. Let’s swap dating hacks!
